We’re getting there, the ex and I! It’s coming up to 8 years this summer that we split up in a manner befitting a Mexican soap opera but that’s all in the past now. I behaved badly in the beginning – and how – but gradually I learned things about myself and started to grow up and take responsibility for me first. It was my mid-life crisis – if I live to 90 that is – and now I am happy to know that I don’t need another mid-life crisis, one was enough!
This week I have appreciated my ex’s kindness as out of the blue yesterday he showed up at the door with wood he had cut for the fire. It’s little things like this that really create a good atmosphere. Without thinking therefore, I offered dinner that evening and we sat with second-born and enjoyed a meal together. First-born, as often happens, was out!!
This week I have also appreciated first born´s efforts to make up for leaving the cake out on Sunday. Resident diva-cat Miss Mypenny Mishau very delicately ate one half of the carrot cake I had made for a customer! I think it was worth losing the business because my older son has been making smoothies for the family before he rushes off to work at 7am. How lovely it is to get up to that every morning this week. I even forgive the dishes in the sink although I wasn’t amused at the fruit in the general bin instead of bringing in the organic bin from outside! Oh well, I am getting there, slowly.
The topic for the show this week is on harmony so I have been thinking a lot about what that means to me. It’s all very well that I ask our listeners to comment but I too have to have some thoughts. So I have been remembering when I used to go and visit my brother and his wife when I was in my 20s and their house was always so harmonious. They never watched tv, infact they went without tv for over a year once because they believed it to be broken, or was that what they told the kids! We would visit and the children would be busy playing or doing arty things if the weather was bad and always the atmosphere was a peaceful one.
I think harmony has to accompany silence, quiet, it’s the peaceful moments that create harmony. The vibrations we pass onto each other can be harmonious or not, just like a music that has harmony can create a stillness in our heart but if the music grates away, that too can grate upon our soul and disturb us.
I enjoy my life very much. I am happy that I am growing up and learning more and more as each year goes by. As my beloved father used to say to me on my birthdays – it’s not another year older, it’s another one wiser. It’s true. Opening my heart, my eyes and my ears to all around and listening for the music, the harmony, life is so much easier. For sure, I have moments in which I cannot hear anything except the noise of my mind and my heart beats faster and my eyes blink and doesn’t see much. But the soap opera way of living in my 20s and 30s is slowly leaving me.
Being the better side of 50 is a wonderful experience so far. Sure my body flops in yoga when teacher Eva effortlessly shows us another posture but the fact that I do yoga now is a plus. I am learning to relax a bit more each time I get up and get creative, the dry throat and racing heart are still there but the mind is a little better. Maybe by 80 years I shall get up and do improvisation with no hang ups at all! By the way, first show with my improv class is on Sunday 8th March, International Women’s Day and in Spanish so I hope to see you there!
So harmony, welcome into my heart and my home – I enjoy having you as part of my life and I look forward to having you more and more. Where does harmony come from? I believe the first step is love, in loving myself I can experience more and more harmony in my life. If I love me, I can love others more easily. It’s not been easy at times in the last 8 years to love my ex but I wasn’t loving me enough. Don’t get me wrong, he still drives me insane and I can make up a list as long as both my arms with complaints and criticisms when I get going. That’s why harmony is so important in relationships and with love as the foundation, anything is possible.
Listen out to my show The Happiness Café next Monday at 10am. Download the app and take me with you. I look forward to hearing your thoughts on harmony too!
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“Improv Show” with Estudio Gori Artieda Sunday, 8 March 2015 6pm in Teatre Lloseta, Mallorca