Magic and the secret garden

Some of you may recall that I “won” the Euro Millions recently, a nice little amount of 15 million euros and that I spent it in a flash – this all happened in my head in a 30 minute drive from Palma to school pick up!  I bought a load of property, gifted it around, including my favourite building of all time which I turned into the Binissalem Peace Centre!  I also bought my lovely eco café people Javi and Elena a building and also my son’s eco school a building, amongst other things!

Today, I discovered that the building I had ear-marked for the Peace Centre is the new location for my son’s school! I am sitting writing this with the biggest smile on my face as I enjoy the wonder of magic and knowing that believing is seeing and even if I do see it slightly differently, it all works out!!  I shall have to relocate my Peace Centre but what a result with the win!

Just before I heard the news, I had parked my car and seen a sign saying “Euromillones – 63 millones” and what do you think I did!  I went and “won” it again!

I spent it in the 12 minutes it takes to drive from the school back home and you’ll be happy to know that the following got 10 million each – Mallorca based not for profits PermaMed, Ondine and Fundación Sa Llavor and London based Communities Empowerment Network.  They will be able to carry on doing what they do so brilliantly already and this money will help them take the pressure off, to get really stuck in and take what they already do so selflessly to a new level.  From promoting permaculture to a wider audience, to keeping our seas and oceans clean and also devloping new ways of holistically educating and caring for our next generations.

I also put aside 5 million to create old people communities including making sure that there is a healthy support for the dying and a million of that was donated to the awesome people at Capsula Mundi to help with their development of the burial pod.

Eight million euros was used island wide for culture and the arts and lots of projects, existing and new, got lucky by being gifted money to help promote culture and the arts.  First born is well happy with the new studio and jazz appreciation school!

I’ve got 10 million left over but I want to go abroad and go back to my roots, Jamaica and Wales, and see what I can do there with the money.  Watch this space.

I’m happy and content – 63 million euros well spent!

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Mallorca’s Avalanche of Love

Santiago Stankovic Photography;

Generosity at its best

I have been blessed to meet some incredible people in my life and none other than this past week.  The powerhouse and inspiration behind Mallorca’s recent avalanche of love is none other than local councillor for Inca, Antonia Triguero.

At a recent gathering of Mallorca based group, Kreakolektiva, Antonia was asked by the hosts to speak about her visit to the island of Kos and why she had decided to collect for the refugees upon her return to Mallorca.  That she did shows the big heart she has and that evening, she inspired the hundred or so people gathered to get involved and none other than photographer, Santiago Stankovic, who immediately set about creating a Facebook event which spiralled out of wonderful control.

With these two souls putting their hearts out there for people to follow, the incredible result was almost overwhelming at times, with people coming from all over the island, donating thousands upon thousands of items to be sent to the refugees in Lesvos.

At first Antonia had secured one 40ft container, but a week of Santi driving all over the island inspiring people out of their houses with donations meant that not just another, but up to six more containers were needed and with people power, they have nearly all been secured with the original plan to leave for Lesvos in the next week or so.  There is a bank account into which anyone can donate to help with the transport, see below, as each container cost 4,500€ to send.

Unfortunately the European Union have just signed a sad and sour deal with Turkey and in the last 24 hours the situation in Greece is unclear, with refugees being turned away from Lesvos as well as being being turfed out of the inhumane camps they have been held in.  What faces Antonia now is  where to send these next containers and as soon as NGOs and colleagues on the ground in Greece can tell her, we shall spread the news as to what is happening with everyone’s kind donations.

All this got me thinking about many things.  One is that this could easily be me or you.  From one day to the next, our brothers and sisters, who now find themselves as refugees, were living in their homes, with their jobs and daily tasks, with their loved ones and their pets.  In a heartbeat, they were on their way with just enough to fill a backpack on a journey where they had no map and who knows if they will get to where they don’t know they are going.  Especially now, with the new ruling, no-one knows what will happen to them.

What Mallorca’s good people have shown this week is that we, the ordinary and the extraordinary people everywhere, know what is good and what is right and that is where our energies have been spent this past week.  It is NOT right that we have a situation whereby thousands and thousands of our human family are fighting for their lives on a daily journey with no clear destination in sight.  It is NOT right that our elected officials sit in their fine offices and wine and dine on the misery of our human families affected by greed, violence and outrageous ego.  It is NOT right that we continue to elect these self-same officious men and women who deserve to come down from their ivory towers and ask themselves “what if that were me”?  It is NOT right that the refugees have no safe passage to escape war and misery.  It is especially NOT right the recent and atrocious deal made on our behalf to turn back the refugees that even dare to think of setting foot in Europe.

Antonia Triguero, Santiago Stankovic, people of Inca, women, men, young people and children of Mallorca you are a force to be reckoned with.  You are people with heart, with a conscience, with abundant love and compassion.  You are a people I take my hat off to and thank you for being who you are.

Visca Mallorca!

To donate to Proem-Aid to send the containers onwards, please use “Contenedor Mallorca” as reference and donate to this account: ES49 1491 0001 2021 7549 1022

 

Kreakolektiva Mallorca

palma de mallorca; tower of love; matthew clark; creativity;

I was invited to a gathering yesterday evening of creative people and so off to the Tower of Love in Palma I went! Matthew Clark, one of the founders and organisers of the event, works in the film industry and having known him for some time now, I knew I would be in for an interesting evening.  His co-host for the evening was the young and very charming Sally Fenaux Barleycorn who presented each and every speaker with contagious enthusiasm and excitement!  I thought I was a puppy dog extraordinaire, but here I have met my match!

This is the second gathering of Kreakolektiva and the idea is that twelve creatives talk for 5 minutes each about their work, any projects or just general lives.  There were of course twelve very interesting people speaking – amongst them a fashion designer, musician, yoga teacher, writer and artist.  There was also a woman who produces her wine with biodynamic principals, another couple who combine theory and practice in their vegetarian/vegan cookery courses and yet another couple who produce films and documentaries, touching upon fascinating subjects.  They are presently looking to crowdfund and finish a documentary on those Spaniards who were held in concentration camps in Germany during the second world war (will post link below).  Two more guys explained how they bring music and pieces of old films to create their own film experience and there was a guy working on the creation of a cultural centre in Inca, the town just next door to where I live.  A young woman presented her passion about olive oil and bringing that to the table literally by encouraging people to learn more about the benefits of using good olive oil.

It was an exciting evening to see what is happening in Mallorca.  The big plus to me of course is that I now have a good three months worth of guests for The Happiness Café radio show!  Added to the evening of course was catching up with old friends and meeting some new ones.  It was a pleasure to sit next to a young stylist and then find out she knows first-born, it’s a small island!

I sat with a huge grin on my face for most of the evening, absorbing new information about people and their projects. I was delighted that Matthew invited me and look forward to the next gathering of Kreakolektiva – I believe I shall be sharing some words about what I do then too!

For more information about this interesting initiative:                                                                     http://www.kreakolektiva.com and http://12x5bykreakolektiva.tumblr.com/

Help crowdfund “Mauthausen, L’holocaust espanyol”                                      http://www.verkami.com/projects/11131

Je suis Ms. Nadia Lopez

Mott Hall Bridges Academy; Brownsville; HONY; Humans of New York; Brandon Stanton; education; scholorships; fund raising; inspiration; values

Principal Nadia Lopez, Mott Hall Bridges Academy (Photo Brandon Stanton)

Last week I was inspired by this woman!  Along with thousands of people around the world, I took note of her thanks to Brandon Stanton’s Humans of New York blog.  If you have never heard of this blog, check it out now!  Brandon Stanton is living proof that we all have a purpose and he has found his purpose which is to allow people to be seen, heard, listened to and believed in!  It all started with him randomly stopping a young man, Vidal, last week and asking if he could take his picture.  What makes Brandon Stanton special is that he asks some quite meaningful questions to the subjects of his pictures and this day was no exception.  Vidal told the HONY world that his principal, Ms Nadia Lopez valued him, she has told him he matters.  Not only him but all the scholars at Mott Hall Bridges Academy in Brownsville New York.

I want to be like Principal Nadia Lopez!  I want to be a woman who influences others, who believes in others, who guides others.  This is where I want my life energy directed, to positively influence those around me.  I believe I am Ms Lopez, we all are, no matter how small our contribution to our world, we all matter!

I know another Ms Lopez, another influential being who believed everyone mattered and he was called Gerry German.  He was an educator too and he was a man who influenced the thousands of children who had the good fortune to cross his path.  He taught in Jamaica, England, North Wales and Nigeria.  He was one of the founder members of STOPP (Society of Teachers Opposed to Physical Punishment) in the late 60s. He was Chief Education Officer at the Commission for Racial Equality back in the 80s.  He was involved with the Working Group Against Racism in Children’s Resources in the 90s after his retirement as an activist.  His proudest moment was founding the Communities Empowerment Network, CEN, in 1999 an advocacy and campaigning service, working for equality and justice in education particularly with African Caribbean parents whose children had been permanently excluded from mainstream education.  He was a daring and innovative man, a concientious objector, he was also my father.

I am blessed to have been his daughter, I had the good fortune to be born to him and my mother Patricia, two hugely influential people, two incredible beings who have loved and guided me at every step of the way.  I attended one of the schools where Gerry was the head, or principal as you say in America.  I saw the love the school kids had for him, never more strongly demonstrated than when he was sacked from the Mold Alun as being too “much” for the establishment!  I was stopped by school bullies and told to pull up my socks and make my dad proud of me because they were proud to consider themselves his children.  I picked up the phone many a time whilst living with mum and dad or visiting them and many an ex student would ring to share their good news – graduating from school or university or just wanting to share what a huge influence Gerry had had on their lives.

Gerry passed away in May 2012 at the ripe old age of 84.  He passed in the night after having spent the day before at the office in Brixton where he met with a young man, recently excluded from school.  That day, my father had brought the first smile to this young man since he had taken on his case.  My father believed in him and that day proved to the young man that he mattered.  He went to bed that night satisfied with another good day, expecting to get up the next day to go back to work.  He left a legacy, he left behind an organisation that is relentless in providing justice and equality for all in education in Britain.  He left a team committed to this ideal, working together and now guided by my brother Deuan and joined by advocates, volunteers, trustees and many, many children needing their services.  He left his mark.

Ms Lopez is the same.  She believes in her kids.  She knows that everyone of them matters and she has high expectations of them.  She leads her team like my father led his team by being the example.  She is a woman with her heart in education, she is the teacher, the real meaning of the teacher.  I salute Ms Lopez and I say “Je suis Principal Nadia Lopez” – je suis in the sense of improving the lives of all, not trashing the lives of any!

Mott Hall Bridges Academy has now had over 700,000 dollars raised in less than a week and these funds will be used to form the Vidal Scholarship Fund, named after this young man who one day was stopped in the streets of his neighbourhood and asked by a stranger if he could have his photograph taken.  Brandon Stanton, Nadia Lopez, Gerry German – these are people who are proof that when we find our purpose in life, we are where we are meant to be.

We all matter, let’s never forget that!

 

 

CEN (Please consider donating)                        http://www.cenlive.org/

Humans of New York                                           http://www.humansofnewyork.com/

Mott Hall Bridges Academy                                http://www.mhbabrooklyn.com/

To donate to Mott Hall Bridges Academy        http://bit.ly/1JmIB8u

Bigging it up for learning!

adult learning; teaching; education; blogging; writing

When we get home from school!

I have had the most fun weekend in a long time, I did two workshops – one I devised and facilitated and the other I attended.  Both were fun and today I feel fired up and ready to go!  Some of my friends spent the weekend doing some learning too.  At second born’s eco-school Sa Llavor they brought in leading UK Waldorf science educator Graham Kennish for the weekend to host a conference on “Towards a Holistic Science”.  It was well attended and enjoyed by many.  Bumping into one of the parents this morning at school drop off, it was wonderful to see how much she enjoyed it.  “I felt 13 years old again and would readily have gone back to school for more” enthused Petra about the weekend.

So what is it about learning as an adult that is different to learning when we are children?  Firstly, we enjoy learning about something we want to learn, not something that we are being told to learn.  We are independent and self-directing; we are problem solving and therefore discussions make up for a large part of our learning and as importantly, our learning has relevance on our lives and we want to apply it there!

That is what I wanted out of my weekend of further education and so Saturday’s workshop was on “Setting Intentions for a Life Changing 2015 and Beyond”.  Although I was the facilitator, I was also learning and this was enjoyed on many levels.  I managed to set some intentions in different areas of my life – career, health, wealth and creativity and I managed to gain valuable experience leading the workshop.  All in all, it was very enjoyable and I hope the participants thought so too!  Of course the setting where we held the workshop was the tranquil Binissalem Peace Centre and that was a plus.

On Sunday, I enjoyed the day with four other women and our teacher – the blogging and social media queen, Vicki Mcleod of Phoenix Media Mallorca!  It was a recap day to go over any areas we needed help with on blogging and it was the perfect day in so many ways!  Firstly, Vicki wears her crown with confidence and enthusiasm.  She loves what she does and this passion and energy was felt by all.  She is a willing teacher, and by willing I mean that she wants us to learn, she wants us to blog, she wants us to be successful and she will go the extra mile for us.

In just a day, I came out of the class with so much useful knowledge, a wealth of tips as well as enthusiasm that is now being put to good use.  I also met two other women I didn’t know and I caught up with Kay from the Universal Booksh0p who is always so kind and fun to be with.  I met Andreea from Signature Estates and was impressed by her determination to learn.  She is a busy working mother running her own company with her husband and yet she was there on a Sunday looking to brush up her skills and I was impressed that she even had time to bring delicious cup cakes – naughty!  Then there was Julie, the Anglican vicar’s wife and a woman in her own right.  Julie is from an educational background and we enjoyed a long talk on schools and education in general.  It was a pleasure to meet a teacher with such a respect and care for her students, especially knowing that the age she prefers to teach is that of teenagers, not always the easiest group!

All in all, I really enjoyed this past weekend.  I feel I have learned a lot about myself in the process.  I enjoyed being a teacher and being with the teacher.  I appreciated curiosity, enthusiasm, problem solving, sharing, support and above all, I came home happy with my achievements!  The boys came home eventually and second born had been to the cinema with some of his school mates and without the parents – he is learning to be more responsible and grown up!  First born went to bed with the laptop to watch his teacher, youtube, and take in a lesson on jazz, adding to his skills as a musician.

Never stop learning, it keeps us healthy in mind, body and spirit and I for one, want that!

 

Blogging & social media learning with Vicki Mcleod                               http://www.phoenixmediamallorca.com

Sa Llavor – independent, autonomous school integrating sustainable ethical principles in action and experience of sustainability as an integral education.                                                       http://www.sallavor.es

Celebrations

fathers and daughters; family; heros; children;

My dad and me!

My wonderful father Gerry German would have been 87 years young today!  It is going on three years since he left us to go dance with the angels and spread magic on my world.  He and my mother Patricia have been the greatest gifts on my life – I am proud that they allowed me to be their daughter or is it that I am proud that I had the sense to choose them as my parents!

This week has seen my birthday too and of course, like every year the first thing I would remember was how dad used to come into my bedroom first thing on my birthday and tell me “remember, it’s not another year older but another year wiser”.  I would reflect on my acquired wisdom before getting up to enjoy my special day and this year was no exception.

I am wiser than ever before but maybe that’s not saying too much as I still make the same mistakes sometimes!  However, I feel a sense of calm that wasn’t there in the past, a sense of acceptance, that all is well in my world, a serenity if you may.  I am proud of what I have achieved in the past year.  I have a weekly radio show “The Happiness Café” that put out 28 shows last year with inspiring guests and listeners tuning in from all over the world.  The feedback has been positive and people seem to enjoy the show.

I am especially proud that my relationship with my siblings gets better and better.  Last summer took in a trip to my younger sister’s home in Devon and that was a special highlight of my summer holidays.  Christmas and New Year was spent laughing and eating with most of my family except for big sister who was with her own family in Ras al-Khaimah.  It felt really good being with the family and knowing that skype provided a back up for those not physically present.  Second born was a fantastic travel companion every time and we even managed to get first born to come on one of the three trips back last year but always itching to get back to his life here in Mallorca.

My mother continues to be my rock, my source of wisdom and allowing me to make  sense of the world.  Each time spent in her company is gaining more understanding about myself.  I am so grateful for the gift of her in my life – so eternally grateful that she is there for me, with love and understanding.

So what did I do on my birthday this year?  I was 53 years young and I went dancing with my sons in the mountain village of Deìa.  Second-born disappeared as soon as we got there but first-born and I enjoyed some boogie moves in the village hall, surrounded by international, young people who apparently get together every Saturday between 12 and 2pm to dance!  The energy of these people was great and focussed and I really enjoyed my birthday, simple but great are the pleasures!

The challenges now to keep celebrating every day as it comes will keep me busy.  I have plans and big hairy audacious ones at that!  I shall enjoy more radio and look forward to developing more monologues which I hope to put on for you later this year, into a one woman show.  I have voice overs to do so listen out for me if you call the electricity company or if you take the boat over to Cabrera and want to know more of the history!  Perhaps you’re booking a holiday with a certain hotel chain, well you might get me telling you which button to press!

Life is good and I am 53 years young!  Wise, serene, happy and in love with life!

Enjoy your year!

 

The Happiness Café @Monday at 10am – http://www.mallorcasunshineradio.com

DJ Nin Petit organises “Wake up dances” in Deìa on Saturdays at Sa Tanca

Wasting no time

Tick box

Tick box

As you know I joined a dating site recently and had to prepare my profile which would hopefully interest would-be suitors.  So far, from a profile to profile point of view, I don’t see the connection and the few enquiries I have received are far off the mark.  I have therefore prepared a list of questions for would-be dating potentials!  Why?  Because I am going to cut to the chase and not waste my time or their’s.  And rather than a massive surprise later on down the road when I have invested time and energy to realise that this person is not what I expected him to be!

The questions I have in mind would go something like this:

What kind of car do you drive?  This is not because I am a car snob, in fact my favourite cars are the old Fiats and Seats.  No, this is because I want to know if you drive from nought to 120km and like an arse!  I want to know if you’re the driver who is up my backside in the fast lane when ahead there is a line of traffic and no-one is going anywhere either fast or slow!

Do you think that foreigners should go back to where they came from?  By this I mean black people!  If your views about people are based on the colour of their skin, I want to know now so that I don’t have to waste my life with you.  Too many of my younger years were spent being polite when white people got racist and I haven’t got the time or energy to deal with that now.

Do you get on with your mother?  I really hope so and that you respect her and show her so.  I hope she is the woman in your life for whom you drop everything to make sure she is okay and if she doesn’t live near by, you call her a couple of times a week and see her whenever you can.

Do you have a healthy relationship with your ex, the mother of your kids?  It’s not for me to become her best friend but if you have a negative relationship with her and you have kids together, then what does that say about you?

Do you have any money problems?  Yes, many of us struggle and I am right now, but I am paying my bills every month.  I don’t need or want anyone else’s financial concerns and I especially don’t want to see a man not paying his part in his life.

Do you smoke, do drugs, drink alcohol and get drunk easily and regularly?  Get a life, get help and grow up!  It impacts on everyone around you, never mind it not being healthy.

Do you watch porn or use porn to get it up?  Hmm, fantasy is a good thing but subjecting women to be servers of sex for your gratification….  nope, not interested!

Do you throw your litter away?  Do you recycle?  No?  Why the hell not!!

Do you find kids in general interesting?  This is a good indicator of whether it’s all about you or whether you are taking part in the bigger picture of humanity.  I like kids, all ages and especially teens.  I find them curious, interesting, alive and I am full of hope for them and their future.  If you are mentoring any then you’re the man for me!

Do you cook and do you enjoy it?  If you love your food and enjoy sharing and preparing, you’re the man for me!  And if you are concerned about what you put in your body and are conscious about source and are considering the feelings of all beings on the planet, I can’t wait to taste your cooking!

Do you dance?  Then I want you to me in your arms and hold me tight.  I want to feel your confidence and your strength exude through the music and fuse us together.  I want to feel your smile on my cheek and hear you whispering sweet nothings in my ear.  I will melt to be on the dance floor with you.

Do you have audacious plans and dreams for your future?  Yes?  Well so do I and they include you by my side.  I will support you, cheer you on, dream with you and enjoy having you by my side supporting me, cheering me on whilst still doing your own thing and going for it!  And you will never hold me back with petty jealousies and insecurities, wondering where I am and why I am not at home waiting for you!

In all of this I remain positive and especially love it when some awesome male friends remind me that there are some great guys out there.  One such message of hope from my good friend and brother, Eugene Skeef:

“Please don’t change, Glynis! Your guy is meditating out there somewhere in the hope of your ripples overlapping in the rhythm of true love…  You know, I imagine the world is heavily tipped to the side of poor sex/love. The poetry of making/forming/creating/sustaining/generating/envisioning love is mind-blowing!!!!!!! Your moment is just around the corner”

I look forward to meeting you!

 

 

 

Living without Facebook, part II

Going gets tough!

Last week I challenged myself to a week without facebook and I survived!  It was more difficult at the weekend when I am not so busy and I was excited on Saturday thinking that by Sunday morning I would be able to check my facebook again.  It slowly dawned on me during the day that no, Sunday couldn’t and wouldn’t happen as that would not add up to a week!  Maths was never my strong point!  So Sunday I spent anxiously wondering what was happening there in cyberworld of friendship and fun!

Monday morning, I had to do the school drop off but needed to post about the radio show before I left so on I hopped, facebook I was back!  99 notifications, 8 messages and 4 friend requests from people I didn’t know!  Hmmm.  This was not the welcome I had imagined as most of those notifications were unimportant and the messages I would have preferred to have received by email.

So what has it been like and what have and learned?  Well, for one it is easy to live without facebook but in my case I recognise that I need a lot of discipline if I am to go back on it.  I returned Monday, checked through things and then decided I would have another week without it.  Why?  Because I waste a lot of my time on facebook, there you have it – waste!  It’s not bringing me an income, it’s not teaching me anything new (some links can prove to be very interesting but they are not facebook) and if anything, it is taking up a lot of my time just scrolling through other people’s lives.

It is quite a useful tool in some ways especially for my radio show, The Happiness Café.  I always look for interesting events to share in my what’s up section.  I also find a way to get a response if I need to know something for my radio show as I do like to have people’s opinions on whatever subject I’ll be looking at.  From that point of view I do miss it but from the friendship point of view there’s nothing better than an in the flesh meeting of friends!  I have caught up with two wonderful and interesting mums this week, career coach Julie and yoga clothes designer Sue.  I will look forward to taking time out to do that on a regular basis – there are some fascinating parents at the school.  I am also realising that I can use the time I have in a more constructive manner and so I am now getting ready to write 50000 words for a story I want to tell.  This will start on 1st November for 10 weeks.  I was going to do the NaNoWriMo challenge which is to write that amount in 30 days but I am going to set myself a reasonable time frame in which to do it as this is something huge for me – I have a fascinating story to share.  Watch this space!

I am also pleased to have spent time in a one-on-one coaching session with the fun and focussed Happiness Strategist Carl Massy.  I was honoured to have him on my radio show back in August and he promised me this special opportunity.  Yesterday he brought me clarity and focus to quite a few issues so I shall enjoy starting some new projects these coming weeks.  My brother Deuan is also a great support and he has me focussing on some new agreements to make up some new and healthy habits.  He has persuaded me to get a buddy here in Mallorca to help me stick to the new agreements.  Welcome on board to my lovely “bossy” friend Marsha and we both agree that our bossiness will help this next venture!  I am looking forward to new morning routine, gratitude, to do lists and a lot lot more!

So leaving facebook has been a blessing.  I am more energised and more focussed.  I am also being more creative and above all, I am making time to connect to people.  I feel blessed to be living in a magical time right now, creating, connecting and caring!  I do recommend living without facebook – it’s fun!

I’m off then, off to Marsha’s for a cup of tea and an egg sandwich and supporting each other in our new habits!  I like this time!

Carl Massy, Happiness Strategist        http://www.carlmassy.com/

Tips for creating new habits                  http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/18-tricks-to-make-new-habits-stick.html

The Happiness Café radio show          http://mallorcasunshineradio.com/

Journey to Self

Grrr...

Grrr…

In my weekly radio show “The Happiness Café” I ask listeners for their opinions on the topic of the show and yesterday was no exception.  The topic permeating the show was “self-discovery” and the guest was an inspiring woman who is co-founder of La Akademia, an educational project aimed at 16 to 22yr youngsters and aimed at addressing their emotional education – free by the way!  It seems to me that all too often education forgets to nurture the emotional well-being of our children and youth and we have many damaged adults as a result of these issues being forgotten or put aside.

So what are my thoughts and opinions on self-discovery?  I loved the fact that yesterday’s guest told us how, when she was a child, her parents encouraged her to have an independence in everything she did and moving out of her comfort zone was something she thought all people did as that’s how her parents encouraged her to be.  My first thought therefore is that on the journey towards self-discovery, we are going to be accompanied by those meant to show us things at some point in our lives, preferably when we are young and then periodically when we need it when we are older.

I was blessed to have grandparents and parents who also encouraged independence and I can see how that has shaped me become who I am.  If I think back to childhood, I was very much left to my own devises a lot of the time and I remember a LOT of play always.  Play on my own but most often play with siblings and friends, outdoors for hours on end – free play – paradise!  And there was lots of reading, time to just sit and read and escape into my imagination.  There was a structure in place, very much a feminine one placed there by my mother who was the main organiser of our day-to-day.  That structure not only gave routine and comfort but it was about security in which I had time to be me.

From that safe starting point in life I have been able to continue my journey with highs and lows, successes and failures, gain and loss, adventure and home and throughout it with the belief that I was still learning and above all, becoming me.  At times I needed to fuel up and in comes those moments that remind us we are learning especially the tough ones, in my case divorce 7 years ago.  We are born naked in the sense that all the clothes we choose to wear throughout life are the colours and combinations we use in that moment.  The clothes I was lucky to wear as a child were laid out for me, clean and comfortable thanks to my parents and family – they were love, respect, trust, peace, happiness, joy, wisdom to name a few.  With those placed freely and wholly in my hands, I was able to grow and look for more outfits – university, employment, marriage, children, cultures, communities – and these were the reminders of my choices and where I was going on my map.

Now, I am older, still learning, still on the journey to self and the differences are that I lay my own clothes out every morning – gratitude, faith, trust, contentment, openess – and at the end of my day I look back and see how far I came.

Self-discovery – on-going, accompanied, alone, pain and gain, easy and fun but the map continues to open sending me in directions that are already printed but just hiding under the flap, waiting for me to peal it back.

Enjoy your journey folks – it’s not over even when you get there!

 

For more information on La Akademia in Mallorca, totally recommended if you have a young person in your life who is curious:

http://www.laakademia.org/

Summertime

School gets out 20th June till 15th September, how awesome is that!

School gets out 20th June till 15th September, how awesome is that!

I love summer holidays!  Admittedly when I was a working mum it was tricky to juggle work and the kids but this summer I am not working and thus have time to relax with second born.  We have been easing into it with a bit a summer school last week and lots of hanging around the house with no rush to get up in the mornings or go to bed at night.  In fact, he’s still asleep now and I have peace and quiet for a little while longer.

The past year has been one long holiday since I gave up my full time job and I have never been happier.  I have taken this time to plant seeds and I don’t know about you but sometimes, once you’ve taken them out of the packet, it’s easy to forget what they were!  That’s how it’s been with me.  I have been putting out my dreams, planting them and watering them, most often forgetting about them and then suddenly, there they are – a little reality!

This is how it now is with the radio show, “The Happiness Café”.  The seed was planted in a conversation with someone over a year ago and this week I have just recorded the 5th programme with many more to go.  It was my dream to have a radio show but I didn’t know anything about radio and so how fab is it that Insel Radio are giving me the chance to make mistakes and hopefully put together something that people will want to listen to.  I have enjoyed five interviews with some wonderful inspiring and interesting people and I have a long list of many more to come!

First born is off to Vietnam in a week or so.  He is going for a month and visiting Thailand and Cambodia too!  He will travel with two friends who luckily seem more sensible than he is ie he’s too wrapped up in playing his guitar and having a good time to remember the basics!  I am nervous about this month long trip but can’t wait to hear his stories when he gets back and hopefully he won’t mind coming on the show and telling us all about it!  He wants to play his guitar with as many people as he can on his travels and he has decided that the time has come to move away from Mallorca and immerse himself in his music.  He is talented, focussed and determined, I can only wish him lots of joy and fun on that journey!

I think second born and I shall take in some day trips and go to places on this island that we don’t really know, lots of beach days with friends and then visit my mum in August and hopefully see the rest of my family too.

I shall enjoy more weddings, immerse myself in happy times and above all relax on this island of calm!  Vivan las vacaciones!  Enjoy your summer folks!