Last week I challenged myself to a week without facebook and I survived! It was more difficult at the weekend when I am not so busy and I was excited on Saturday thinking that by Sunday morning I would be able to check my facebook again. It slowly dawned on me during the day that no, Sunday couldn’t and wouldn’t happen as that would not add up to a week! Maths was never my strong point! So Sunday I spent anxiously wondering what was happening there in cyberworld of friendship and fun!
Monday morning, I had to do the school drop off but needed to post about the radio show before I left so on I hopped, facebook I was back! 99 notifications, 8 messages and 4 friend requests from people I didn’t know! Hmmm. This was not the welcome I had imagined as most of those notifications were unimportant and the messages I would have preferred to have received by email.
So what has it been like and what have and learned? Well, for one it is easy to live without facebook but in my case I recognise that I need a lot of discipline if I am to go back on it. I returned Monday, checked through things and then decided I would have another week without it. Why? Because I waste a lot of my time on facebook, there you have it – waste! It’s not bringing me an income, it’s not teaching me anything new (some links can prove to be very interesting but they are not facebook) and if anything, it is taking up a lot of my time just scrolling through other people’s lives.
It is quite a useful tool in some ways especially for my radio show, The Happiness Café. I always look for interesting events to share in my what’s up section. I also find a way to get a response if I need to know something for my radio show as I do like to have people’s opinions on whatever subject I’ll be looking at. From that point of view I do miss it but from the friendship point of view there’s nothing better than an in the flesh meeting of friends! I have caught up with two wonderful and interesting mums this week, career coach Julie and yoga clothes designer Sue. I will look forward to taking time out to do that on a regular basis – there are some fascinating parents at the school. I am also realising that I can use the time I have in a more constructive manner and so I am now getting ready to write 50000 words for a story I want to tell. This will start on 1st November for 10 weeks. I was going to do the NaNoWriMo challenge which is to write that amount in 30 days but I am going to set myself a reasonable time frame in which to do it as this is something huge for me – I have a fascinating story to share. Watch this space!
I am also pleased to have spent time in a one-on-one coaching session with the fun and focussed Happiness Strategist Carl Massy. I was honoured to have him on my radio show back in August and he promised me this special opportunity. Yesterday he brought me clarity and focus to quite a few issues so I shall enjoy starting some new projects these coming weeks. My brother Deuan is also a great support and he has me focussing on some new agreements to make up some new and healthy habits. He has persuaded me to get a buddy here in Mallorca to help me stick to the new agreements. Welcome on board to my lovely “bossy” friend Marsha and we both agree that our bossiness will help this next venture! I am looking forward to new morning routine, gratitude, to do lists and a lot lot more!
So leaving facebook has been a blessing. I am more energised and more focussed. I am also being more creative and above all, I am making time to connect to people. I feel blessed to be living in a magical time right now, creating, connecting and caring! I do recommend living without facebook – it’s fun!
I’m off then, off to Marsha’s for a cup of tea and an egg sandwich and supporting each other in our new habits! I like this time!
Carl Massy, Happiness Strategist http://www.carlmassy.com/
Tips for creating new habits http://www.lifehack.org/articles/productivity/18-tricks-to-make-new-habits-stick.html
The Happiness Café radio show http://mallorcasunshineradio.com/